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9X Top Writer. Proud grad of CA public schools. Committed to justice & leadership development. Wife & mom of 2 girls & 2 big dogs. Love to eat almost everything

Feminist Asian American mom and wife who is a classic Type A and ESTJ. Loves to eat and is willing to travel for food.

Woman sits on log with her back to the camera as two teen girls walk toward the water’s edge.
This candid photo was taken by my husband last week as we watched our teen daughters explore the cove.

A fast walker, fast talker, and fast eater, I do everything too fast. It’s like I am always running out of time. I don’t know why I feel so compelled to be efficient and maximize my time.

I’ve tried to slow myself down — whether it’s trying to chew each…

I’ve been dubbed a “Top Writer” in nine categories (but lost several in August 2021). See links to all my stories.

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My husband thought I had hit something or been sideswiped.

You can’t even open the front passenger door without it creaking noisily. The lining of the wheel well was also torn out. Photo by author.

As I was walking to my hybrid electric commuter car to drive home after a day in the office earlier today, my husband texted me and asked if I had crashed into something on Friday evening. I had been the last to drive our Honda Pilot, an extra car we…

My daughter’s photo reminded me how unusual our area is

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With her permission, I shared a photo of my eldest daughter posing with a group of friends before their high school Homecoming dance on Facebook this past weekend. …

We Asian Americans need to build trust and show respect first.

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I read Khadejah’s story, “Here’s Why The Relationship Between Black People And Asians is Complicated” and found myself thinking about it a lot. She raises several compelling points that I painfully acknowledge are true.

I kept thinking about her story and after leaving two comments, realized I still had more…

Cash gifts are common in some cultures but awkward in the U.S.

A cash gift in a red envelope is a common practice in Chinese culture. Photo by Jason Leung on Unsplash

With the unexpected slowdown in global shipping due to backlogs related to the pandemic, gift givers may be facing limited options when it comes to giving consumer goods as gifts this holiday season.

I’m already trying to identify some good holiday gifts to order now so I have something to…

It’s really hard to live up to some ideals. Can you do it?

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I have always appreciated and respected the idea of being vegan. Not only does it avoid exploiting animals produced in the industrial farming industry, but it also reduces our environmental footprint if we eat chickpeas, tofu, nuts, and black beans instead of chicken, pork, lamb, and beef.

Yet I love…

I probably should start working on these given my age!

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I read both Allison Cecile’s story and Paul Combs’s story about their bucket lists and was inspired. I haven’t ever thought of this before, but I’m reminded of my mortality because of recent unexpected deaths of relatively young people. I’m only in my mid-40s but I keep hearing of friends…

People keep violently attacking Asian Americans.

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I shouldn’t be surprised. There are so few Asian Americans in the United States that the stereotypes about us in the mass media are often the only impression non-Asians have of us. Meek, docile, and deferential are the three words that frequently come up when people think of Asian Americans…

I don’t know how I would otherwise have learned their stories.

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I came to Medium in March of 2021 because I had written a passionate and lengthy essay about how anti-Asian hate feels like death by a thousand cuts. I knew my essay was too long for Facebook so I looked around and found Medium. …

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