Agreed! I think going into a long-term, committed relationship with the right attitude makes all the difference. It's not about who is right or changing your partner to fit your needs. In fact, I think reflecting about how you can be a better person (and subsequently a better partner to the person you care so much about) is a great way to continue to grow as a person and invest in yourself.

One of the things I'm grateful to my partner for is helping me be a better person and address some of my weaknesses. I am motivated to continue to work on myself because I want to be a better partner, too.

Good luck with your proposal--I hope you write about it afterward!