Are you a feminist theory scholar? How can you be so rigid in your interpretation of feminism? I was a Women's Studies minor and studied some of the academic theories of feminism but I wouldn't dare to claim to know the entire field or declare that "The feminist dogma trashes men, talks consistently about the oppression of the patriarchy and tells you how lucky you are to have a job."

Instead, I identify as a feminist who believes that individuals, regardless of gender identity, should have freedom of choice. Some want to choose to compete in the paid workforce and make their mark there. Some want to focus exclusively on raising the next generation of children. Some of us want to try and do both. None of us should be prohibited from pursuing any of these paths because of our perceived gender identity.

For any feminist, I hope you find the right partner who supports your personal AND your professional goals. I agree with the author that being a feminist doesn't mean giving up on love. I was lucky to find love and count myself fortunate to have earned the love and support of a partner (who yes, is a man) who respects and admires my ability to hold my own in a competitive workplace, do manual labor out in the yard with him, and raise our kids alongside him. I'm still a feminist.


9X Top Writer. Proud grad of CA public schools. Committed to justice & leadership development. Wife & mom of 2 girls & 2 big dogs. Love to eat almost everything

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