Congratulations on your Leaf! That is exciting. If I were a single woman, I probably would have opted for a much smaller sedan but with a family of 4 and 2 large dogs, we needed the largest SUV we could find.
I also understand not wanting to spend so much on a car. The e-tron is the most we have ever spent on a car. Yet I see it as an investment in both comfort and performance. We drive our cars for years (21 years on the Lexus, which is unusually long, and 10+ years on past Hondas). So we pay cash and just hold onto them.