Her Designer Purse Cost More Than Her Boyfriend’s Used Car

We don’t always realize money can torpedo your relationships.

Anna (she/her)
6 min readMar 18, 2022
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My friend, “Kimi” was a walking conundrum to me when we met in college. She had expensive tastes but was the cheapest person I knew. It was the first time I realized that wealthy people can be stingy.

For example, when we had a potluck, she would bring a green salad or a bag of dinner rolls — whatever was the cheapest, easiest thing to bring. When we went out, she would eat beforehand and not order anything. Then she would mooch some of our food.

Yet Kimi also had multiple high-end designer purses — the kind of brands I learned later that wealthy socialites buy. It didn’t make sense to me at all. Apparently, her parents gave her money that she saved up to buy the things she most wanted even if it meant eating salad and cutting back on other expenses.

I had never heard of most of the purse brands she had before, let alone the fact that she later told me how one purse was $4,000! I thought a $100 purse was a designer purse. Kimi scorned Coach, DKNY, and other “low end” designer bag brands.

It was my first time getting a glimpse of the upper class. They have money to spend on frivolous items for appearance’s sake.



Anna (she/her)

9X Top Writer. Proud grad of CA public schools. Committed to justice & leadership development. Wife & mom of 2 girls & 2 big dogs. Love to eat almost everything