I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Grief manifests in many ways so I hope you are able to take the time and space to process it. Be kind to yourself and hopefully others around you will understand why you're particularly emotionally fragile right now.

As for your comment about being unsatisfied, I think you'll have to find other writers who have stronger opinions about prenups. Once I put my initial emotions aside (e.g., defensiveness about being seen as a "gold-digger", anxiety/discomfort that my father-in-law was already thinking our marriage might fail, etc.), I looked at it logically and accepted that this was a prerequisite to marriage to my husband.

There are plenty of other people who are unable to put aside those feelings and feel insulted by being asked to sign a prenup. At the end of the day, it's a discussion most young, first-marriage couples don't have because most of us don't have any money. That's why I thought I'd share my experience.

If you grow up with a massive trust fund, it's probably been on your radar far longer. Most of us don't have those, so we never even think about prenups. Think of my essay as just the start of a conversation. If you find yourself marrying a spouse with significant assets, find yourself a good attorney so you are well-informed.

Best wishes.

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