I am sorry to hear you're leaving a home you invested so much time and energy to build because the community just isn't right. I know the feeling and it can be heartbreaking. We moved from a home we thought would be our "forever home" five years ago because the neighborhood was changing. Lots of techies who moved in were too busy to socialize with the neighbors. We never saw some of them as they didn't participate in neighborhood activities and worked unusual hours.
I hope wherever you and your family go that you'll find a welcoming community that engages and includes all of you. Perhaps back to the Bay Area? Best wishes!