Mary, Erika looks beautiful and happy. Perhaps you might consider how much you do to help make her happy? Then you get some of the credit for it, too!
That’s what I tell myself when my mom points out to me that my baby-faced husband (who is older than me) looks so young. I’m also lazy and don’t have a skincare regimen whereas he actually uses eye cream and sunscreen religiously.
I still work out and try to dress in nice outfits, but I’m not going to stress about my wrinkles and sunspots. I’ve earned my wrinkles and my sunspots (both from having too much fun laughing and playing in the sun).