Thanks, Lisa, for articulating what I've also been thinking when it comes to juggling parenting, household management, and a demanding job outside the home all at the same time. I outsource what I can (e.g., housecleaning service and an "Uber for kids" chauffeur service), my husband does all the grocery shopping and cooking, and I do laundry/dishes on the weekends. Still, there's always a lot left to figure out in my limited time (e.g., birthday gift for friends, costumes for school projects, etc.).
I think what working from home full-time for the past year because of the pandemic has taught me is that I am at my best when I have the flexibility to be an active parent. I still get my paid work done (and go above and beyond when I can) but I'm amazed at how LITTLE guilt I've had while working from home. There is a far better work/life balance when I'm not commuting 3 hours/day to get to my office.
I can wake my kids up for breakfast and hear about their crazy dreams (as opposed to leaving our home at 6 am). I can throw in a load of dishes or laundry on a weekday (instead of doing 3-4 loads on the weekend). I can also eat 3 meals a day with my kids and hear about their classes/teachers/friends.
I'm not sure what life will look like once they return to the classroom this Fall and I'm back in my office (schedule still TBD). But I'm going to push hard to try and WFH 3 days/week. I hope you. might be able to figure out a better schedule to accommodate everything you have to do at home and at work.