This is a great story, Allison. I find it's really difficult to give good relationship advice. I think sharing how I made certain decisions and mistakes might be more instructive for my daughters than specific advice. But at the end of the day, all of that fades into the background. I find that love sometimes makes us do stupid things or remain blind to obvious concerns.
No matter how much I may want to spare them from the pain and heartache, that's how you learn best.