You don’t survive 23 years together on lust, so yes, I do think my husband and I have figured out how to support one another, resolve any conflicts, and communicate openly. But I knew that even before we married. Dating for four years before marriage gives you a good amount of time to see someone at their worst (and at their best). Thanks for your thoughts.

P.S. Not to be a grammar nerd, but it’s testing your mettle, not metal.

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