Your story is accurate and I think it's sparked by the fact that many smart, accomplished men, unlike former President Obama, don't marry smart, accomplished women but opt to marry a young, pliable, and dependent woman (aka trophy wife). That leaves fewer smart, accomplished men for the Michelle Robinsons of the world (her maiden name before marriage).

The reality is that men are happy to marry "beneath" them (e.g., when she has a pretty face/hot body), but very few women marry "beneath" them so they end up struggling to find equals since some of their peers have opted for beauty over brains.