9X Top Writer. Proud grad of CA public schools. Committed to justice & leadership development. Wife & mom of 2 girls & 2 big dogs. Love to eat almost everything

Feminist Asian American mom and wife who is a classic Type A and ESTJ. Loves to eat and is willing to travel for food.

Woman sits on log with her back to the camera as two teen girls walk toward the water’s edge.
This candid photo was taken by my husband last week as we watched our teen daughters explore the cove.

A fast walker, fast talker, and fast eater, I do everything too fast. It’s like I am always running out of time. I don’t know why I feel so compelled to be efficient and maximize my time.

I’ve tried to slow myself down — whether it’s trying to chew each…

If you want to be the center of attention, do so in a casually confident manner.

Photo by Scotty Turner on Unsplash

I read Eszter Brhlik’s story, “5 Terrible Traits Of Cool Kids That Don’t Cut Anymore” and thought to myself a few times, “The popular kids I knew didn’t do that.”

Some of the stories Eszter included made me cringe, as she painted a portrait of cruel and insecure people preying…

We will not follow in the footsteps of MTV’s My Super Sweet 16.

She definitely does not want a pink-themed party! Photo by bia on Unsplash

My daughter turns 16 in a few months and we’ve started talking about what kind of party she wants. Back in the early 1990s, my friends and I had home parties for our 16th birthday celebrations. I remember my parents hid in their room while about 20–25 of my friends…

This is what working from home has turned me into.

She may look sophisticated and professional, but I bet there aren’t any pockets in her dress! Photo by mentatdgt from Pexels

They say that first impressions count. In my mid-20s, I was the kind of woman who favored sheath dresses or a pencil skirt and blouse paired with 3" heels and a sleek shoulder bag. I wanted to look polished and professional when I met with colleagues and new contacts.

As…

Wouldn’t it be great if more of us signaled what we need?

Photo by Federico Lancellotti on Unsplash

A few months ago, I read a news article about a Sonoma County, California couple who identified a new service to help rural homeowners after the devastating wildfires in California decimated so many homes.

Their company, Fire Safe Signs, makes custom street signs for rural homes to indicate to firefighters…

Anna (she/her)

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